I find the differences between what appeals to a woman versus a man fascinating. Typically, we approach our erotic imaginings very differently. I like to know who the characters are, are they likeable? Why are they attracted to each other and what is motivating them? My male friends tell me to please just get to the fucking part…
I imagine women would prefer a story told in the third person (she/he) whereas a man would like the first and second person (me/you). A fantasy for a woman might begin… “Their eyes met across the crowed bar. A spark of attraction flared….”
If I were to write a fantasy for a man it would more likely begin…. “Your dick is in my mouth….”
The first story I posted was written for a man. Which man is unimportant, but it was written to appeal to a man. It’s my understanding men like to hear about (or better yet, watch) women masturbating.
However, the most recent posting I wrote more for a woman. Not only do I like writing for woman, but there clearly isn’t enough erotica available written specifically for woman. And there isn’t nearly enough porn made for the female audience.
So perhaps I’ll alternate. Maybe, if I can figure out how (I’m pretty technologically inept!), I’ll have ‘his’ and ‘her’ sections of the blog, but I’m making no promises… :-)
What does a woman want in a fantasy? What are some of the things which appeal to her senses? What appeals to a man? Are my assumptions about what men and women want horribly wrong? Am I being sexist (or worse, unimaginative)?
All I can tell you for sure is what appeals to me; you’ll have to tell me what appeals to you? You never know; I might even have a story about it…
Pleasure Me - Tina Donahue
1 year ago